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Myles Clarke
Myles Clarke, 32 Online: This week
Body Type: Dad Bod
Height: 5′3″
Eyes: Prefer Not to Say
Drinking: Rarely
Smoking: Rarely
Sexuality: Skoliosexual
Relationship: Single
Education: Trade School
Bio: Chef in training with a knack for baking. Seeking a partner to share sweet moments.
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Gary Dillon
Gary Dillon, 30 Online: This week
Body Type: Soft-Masculine
Height: 5′3″
Eyes: Violet
Drinking: Rarely
Smoking: Never
Sexuality: Bisexual
Relationship: Prefer Not to Say
Education: Master's Degree
Bio: Teacher with a passion for history. Looking for someone who loves learning and exploring.
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Reagan Knox
Reagan Knox, 33 Online: Recently
Body Type: Plus-Size
Height: 5′5″
Eyes: Red
Drinking: Never
Smoking: Never
Sexuality: Graysexual
Relationship: It's Complicated
Education: Trade School
Bio: Self-proclaimed geek who loves board games and sci-fi. Let's have a game night!
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Chantel Gillespie
Chantel Gillespie, 32 Online: Recently
Body Type: Androgynous
Height: 5′7″
Eyes: Green
Drinking: Occasionally
Smoking: Occasionally
Sexuality: Prefer Not to Say
Relationship: It's Complicated
Education: No Formal Education
Bio: Aspiring actor with a love for improv. Let’s see where life’s script takes us.
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Jean Norton
Jean Norton, 33 Online: Today
Body Type: Pear-Shaped
Height: 5′5″
Eyes: Green
Drinking: Never
Smoking: Vapes Only
Sexuality: Graysexual
Relationship: It's Complicated
Education: Bachelor's Degree
Bio: Comedy writer who loves making people laugh. Let’s share some jokes.
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John Mcmahon
John Mcmahon, 31 Online: Recently
Body Type: Voluptuous
Height: 5′10″
Eyes: Amber
Drinking: Rarely
Smoking: Never
Sexuality: Homosexual
Relationship: Single
Education: PhD
Bio: Gamer, streamer, and all-around geek. Let’s co-op through life.
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Damon Kirkland
Damon Kirkland, 30 Online: Today
Body Type: Toned
Height: 5′2″
Eyes: Green
Drinking: Prefer Not to Say
Smoking: Never
Sexuality: Bisexual
Relationship: It's Complicated
Education: High School Diploma
Bio: Nature lover who enjoys weekend camping trips. Seeking someone to stargaze with.
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Arielle Pennington
Arielle Pennington, 28 Online: Today
Body Type: Lean
Height: 5′9″
Eyes: Amber
Drinking: Prefer Not to Say
Smoking: Rarely
Sexuality: Queer
Relationship: It's Complicated
Education: Prefer Not to Say
Bio: Tech nerd and gamer. Can you beat me at Mario Kart? Let’s find out!
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Lewis Price
Lewis Price, 28 Online: This week
Body Type: Busty
Height: 5′10″
Eyes: Red
Drinking: Rarely
Smoking: Prefer Not to Say
Sexuality: Heterosexual
Relationship: Open Relationship
Education: Associate Degree
Bio: Painter who finds joy in colors, emotions, and storytelling.
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Jena Cameron
Jena Cameron, 31 Online: This week
Body Type: Stocky
Height: 6′1″
Eyes: Amber
Drinking: Trying to Quit
Smoking: Rarely
Sexuality: Questioning
Relationship: Polyamorous
Education: Master's Degree
Bio: Animal rescuer and advocate. Searching for a fellow animal lover.
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Is Finding Your Queer Tribe in Suburban San Diego as Impossible as It Feels?

That moment when you're sitting alone at Cosmos Coffee on La Mesa Blvd, watching straight couples walk by hand-in-hand, wondering if you're the only queer person in this zip code...

My La Mesa Awakening

When I moved to La Mesa three years ago, I was charmed by the village vibes and Friday farmers markets, but panicked about leaving my queer community behind. Those first months were lonely - scanning crowds at The Regal for fellow queers during discount Tuesdays, hoping someone would notice my pronoun pin at Sprouts. Then one rainy afternoon at Public Square Coffee, I spotted someone with a pride bracelet who became my first local friend.

The Suburban Queer Struggle Is Real

  • Finding spaces that aren't explicitly queer but still feel safe
  • Dating apps that keep matching you with people in Hillcrest (30 minutes away!)
  • Building community when there's no central gathering place
  • Explaining to family why you "have to drive all the way to North Park" for events

Creating Queer Magic in East County

Instead of waiting for La Mesa to become queerer, I started making it happen. We now have a monthly meetup at Brew Coffee Spot, a queer book club at the library, and an ongoing group chat for impromptu hangouts. The joy of suburban queer life is that we create the spaces we need.

Remember: your queerness doesn't diminish because you live outside the gayborhood. Our stories and experiences matter here too, adding vibrant threads to La Mesa's community fabric.

Drop a comment if you're in East County and want to connect! What spaces have you found or created that feel like home?