Finding My Rainbow in Laguna Niguel: A Queer Journey of Belonging
Ever wondered how it feels to be visibly queer in a picture-perfect Orange County suburb? Let me tell you, it's been quite the colorful adventure.
My Coastal Queer Awakening
When I first moved to Laguna Niguel three years ago, I was struck by the breathtaking ocean views and meticulously maintained neighborhoods. But beneath the pristine surface, I worried: would there be room for my authentic, queer self here? Those first months, I felt like I was holding my breath, carefully monitoring how I dressed at the Trader Joe's on Aliso Creek Road, second-guessing whether to mention my partner at neighborhood gatherings.
The Invisible Tightrope We Walk
I know so many of us struggle with:
- Finding safe spaces to fully express ourselves in suburban communities
- Balancing visibility with comfort in everyday interactions
- Building genuine connections beyond the sparse LGBTQ+ meetups
- Navigating well-meaning but sometimes clueless allies
Creating Your Queer Oasis
What I've learned is that queer community doesn't always look like we expect. Sometimes it's the barista who gives you a knowing smile when you mention your girlfriend. Sometimes it's creating the very spaces we wish existed. I started a monthly potluck at Salt Creek Beach that's grown from 3 to 30 people, proving we were all just waiting for someone to make the first move.
Remember, your queerness doesn't need validation from anyone. You belong here just as much as the straight couples with their golden retrievers and matching SUVs. Your presence makes this community richer, more vibrant, more real.
How are you finding or creating community where you are? Share your story below—let's build connections right here in the comments. You never know who needs to hear they're not alone. 💖🌈