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Santiago Bradley
Santiago Bradley, 33 Online: Recently
Body Type: Hourglass
Height: 6′3″
Eyes: Brown
Drinking: Rarely
Smoking: Heavy Smoker
Sexuality: Homosexual
Relationship: Divorced
Education: Some High School
Bio: Fitness coach by day, Netflix binger by night. Looking for someone to keep me on my toes.
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Dario Durham
Dario Durham, 28 Online: Recently
Body Type: Busty
Height: 5′8″
Eyes: Hazel
Drinking: Prefer Not to Say
Smoking: Vapes Only
Sexuality: Homosexual
Relationship: Prefer Not to Say
Education: PhD
Bio: Nature lover and hiking enthusiast. Let's get lost in the woods and find ourselves.
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Codie Mcconnell
Codie Mcconnell, 33 Online: Recently
Body Type: Soft-Feminine
Height: 4′11″
Eyes: Green
Drinking: Never
Smoking: Frequently
Sexuality: Sapiosexual
Relationship: Divorced
Education: No Formal Education
Bio: Painter and dreamer. Looking for a muse to inspire my next masterpiece.
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Ryder Hatfield
Ryder Hatfield, 29 Online: Today
Body Type: Pear-Shaped
Height: 6′0″
Eyes: Brown
Drinking: Heavy Drinker
Smoking: Heavy Smoker
Sexuality: Skoliosexual
Relationship: Polyamorous
Education: PhD
Bio: Language learner and world traveler. Looking for a partner in global adventures.
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Ivy Boone
Ivy Boone, 30 Online: Today
Body Type: Pear-Shaped
Height: 5′7″
Eyes: Brown
Drinking: Never
Smoking: Vapes Only
Sexuality: Gynosexual
Relationship: Prefer Not to Say
Education: PhD
Bio: Gardener with a love for sustainability. Let’s grow something beautiful together.
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Leanne Watson
Leanne Watson, 29 Online: Recently
Body Type: Busty
Height: 5′3″
Eyes: Violet
Drinking: Occasionally
Smoking: Heavy Smoker
Sexuality: Demisexual
Relationship: Open Relationship
Education: Some High School
Bio: Classical musician and orchestra member. Let’s create harmony together.
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Adonis Yang
Adonis Yang, 30 Online: This week
Body Type: Toned
Height: 5′9″
Eyes: Prefer Not to Say
Drinking: Heavy Drinker
Smoking: Social Smoker
Sexuality: Homosexual
Relationship: Prefer Not to Say
Education: Master's Degree
Bio: Writer and poet. Looking for someone to inspire my next piece.
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Maverick Burns
Maverick Burns, 30 Online: This week
Body Type: Tall
Height: 5′8″
Eyes: Prefer Not to Say
Drinking: Never
Smoking: Frequently
Sexuality: Homosexual
Relationship: It's Complicated
Education: No Formal Education
Bio: Adventure seeker and scuba diver. Let’s dive deep, literally and metaphorically.
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Britney Walter
Britney Walter, 30 Online: Recently
Body Type: Stocky
Height: 5′5″
Eyes: Hazel
Drinking: Trying to Quit
Smoking: Heavy Smoker
Sexuality: Demisexual
Relationship: Open Relationship
Education: No Formal Education
Bio: Painter and lover of all things colorful. Seeking someone who brings light into my life.
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Angie Gould
Angie Gould, 33 Online: This week
Body Type: Voluptuous
Height: 5′1″
Eyes: Amber
Drinking: Prefer Not to Say
Smoking: Prefer Not to Say
Sexuality: Questioning
Relationship: Prefer Not to Say
Education: Trade School
Bio: Teacher with a passion for history. Looking for someone who loves learning and exploring.
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Meet Queer singles online in Oakland, California – dating that works for you!

Ever Feel Like an Outsider in Your Own Community?

Last week, as I wandered through the rainbow-draped streets of Oakland during Pride, I found myself alone in a crowd of thousands—a paradox that hits differently when you're queer in a queer space.

Oakland Taught Me to Breathe

When I first moved to Oakland three years ago, the fog rolled in from the Bay as I unpacked my U-Haul (yes, the lesbian stereotype was alive and well). The city welcomed me with open arms—Lake Merritt's sparkling waters, Temescal's vibrant alleys, and community spaces where pronouns weren't an afterthought but a greeting.

The Isolation Paradox

Yet despite the rainbow crosswalks and queer-owned cafés, many of us still struggle with:

  • Dating app burnout that feels especially exhausting when you're limiting your pool to queer folks in your area
  • Finding authentic connections beyond surface-level conversations at crowded bars
  • Building chosen family when biological family is distant—both physically and emotionally

Finding Your People Takes Work

What's saved me has been:

  • Joining smaller, interest-based groups (Oakland's queer hiking club changed my life)
  • Being vulnerable first—telling your story opens doors
  • Showing up consistently, even when it's uncomfortable

Remember, your queerness is not a monolith. The community isn't perfect, but it's ours to shape.

You're not alone in feeling alone sometimes. That contradiction is part of our beautiful, complex experience.

Share Your Oakland Story

How did you find your people here? What spaces make you feel most at home? Your story might be someone else's roadmap.