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Eryn Nolan
Eryn Nolan, 29 Online: Recently
Body Type: Soft-Masculine
Height: 6′1″
Eyes: Green
Drinking: Rarely
Smoking: Prefer Not to Say
Sexuality: Sapiosexual
Relationship: Open Relationship
Education: No Formal Education
Bio: Film buff and aspiring director. Let’s discuss the nuances of cinema over popcorn.
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Lindsay Bender
Lindsay Bender, 33 Online: This week
Body Type: Stocky
Height: 5′0″
Eyes: Violet
Drinking: Frequently
Smoking: Occasionally
Sexuality: Skoliosexual
Relationship: Single
Education: Master's Degree
Bio: Florist who finds beauty in the little things. Searching for a love that blooms.
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Zane Bush
Zane Bush, 29 Online: Recently
Body Type: Stocky
Height: 5′2″
Eyes: Brown
Drinking: Trying to Quit
Smoking: Occasionally
Sexuality: Polysexual
Relationship: It's Complicated
Education: Associate Degree
Bio: Lifelong gamer and sci-fi geek. Let’s co-op our way through life.
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Andre Simmons
Andre Simmons, 30 Online: Today
Body Type: Athletic
Height: 5′11″
Eyes: Amber
Drinking: Social Drinker
Smoking: Rarely
Sexuality: Sapiosexual
Relationship: Prefer Not to Say
Education: Currently a Student
Bio: Author and poet. Let's write the next great love story together.
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Walker Roach
Walker Roach, 29 Online: Today
Body Type: Curvy
Height: 5′1″
Eyes: Prefer Not to Say
Drinking: Occasionally
Smoking: Social Smoker
Sexuality: Pansexual
Relationship: Divorced
Education: Currently a Student
Bio: Traveler and foodie. Always planning the next adventure.
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Mark Cole
Mark Cole, 29 Online: This week
Body Type: Tall
Height: 5′11″
Eyes: Blue
Drinking: Heavy Drinker
Smoking: Occasionally
Sexuality: Skoliosexual
Relationship: It's Complicated
Education: No Formal Education
Bio: Lover of art museums and cozy bookstores. Let’s get lost in a world of creativity.
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Lewis Hurley
Lewis Hurley, 30 Online: Today
Body Type: Muscular
Height: 5′0″
Eyes: Violet
Drinking: Trying to Quit
Smoking: Never
Sexuality: Bisexual
Relationship: Single
Education: PhD
Bio: Ballet dancer and fitness lover. I believe in love as graceful as a pirouette.
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Branden Hunt
Branden Hunt, 28 Online: Recently
Body Type: Slim
Height: 5′0″
Eyes: Amber
Drinking: Trying to Quit
Smoking: Heavy Smoker
Sexuality: Bisexual
Relationship: Open Relationship
Education: Prefer Not to Say
Bio: Gardener and tea lover. Seeking someone who enjoys quiet mornings and blooming flowers.
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Paul Yates
Paul Yates, 28 Online: This week
Body Type: Stocky
Height: 5′1″
Eyes: Violet
Drinking: Heavy Drinker
Smoking: Frequently
Sexuality: Polysexual
Relationship: It's Complicated
Education: Associate Degree
Bio: Surfer and beach lover. Searching for a seaside romance.
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Jamaal Santana
Jamaal Santana, 31 Online: Today
Body Type: Full-Figured
Height: 5′7″
Eyes: Brown
Drinking: Heavy Drinker
Smoking: Social Smoker
Sexuality: Graysexual
Relationship: It's Complicated
Education: Bachelor's Degree
Bio: Tea connoisseur and cozy bookshop explorer.
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Finding My Queer Family in Silicon Valley

Have you ever walked through the streets of downtown San Jose, surrounded by tech bros and startup energy, wondering where on earth your queer community is hiding? That was me three years ago, fresh from the Midwest with nothing but a job offer and a rainbow pin on my backpack.

From Castro Street to South First Fridays

I still remember my first night at Splash Bar, nervously sipping a drink while scanning the room for friendly faces. A drag queen named Veronika invited me to her table, and suddenly I wasn't alone anymore. San Jose might live in San Francisco's shadow when it comes to queer visibility, but our community here is tight-knit and genuine.

When Silicon Valley Feels Straight-Washed

Let's talk about the struggles, though:

  • Dating apps that keep showing you the same 15 people
  • LGBTQ+ events that somehow always happen when you're working late
  • That weird isolation of being "the queer one" in your tech team
  • Finding authentic connections beyond hookup culture

Creating Your Queer Home Here

What I've learned is that queer joy in San Jose requires some intentionality. Join the Billy DeFrank Center events. Volunteer at Silicon Valley Pride. Find your micro-community through book clubs or hiking groups. The queer scene here isn't always obvious, but it's vibrant and waiting for you.

Remember, your experience of loneliness isn't a reflection of your worthiness. We've all felt adrift here between the tech campuses and suburban sprawl. Your people are here.

How did you find your queer community in San Jose? Share below - your story might be exactly what someone else needs to hear today.