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Andrea Contreras
Andrea Contreras, 29 Online: Today
Body Type: Dad Bod
Height: 6′1″
Eyes: Red
Drinking: Trying to Quit
Smoking: Heavy Smoker
Sexuality: Questioning
Relationship: Open Relationship
Education: Prefer Not to Say
Bio: Tea connoisseur and cozy bookshop explorer.
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Alaina Barrera
Alaina Barrera, 31 Online: This week
Body Type: Compact & Petite
Height: 5′8″
Eyes: Gray
Drinking: Trying to Quit
Smoking: Social Smoker
Sexuality: Heterosexual
Relationship: Polyamorous
Education: Master's Degree
Bio: Chef in training with a knack for baking. Seeking a partner to share sweet moments.
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Daja Everett
Daja Everett, 31 Online: Recently
Body Type: Androgynous
Height: 5′7″
Eyes: Green
Drinking: Social Drinker
Smoking: Vapes Only
Sexuality: Bisexual
Relationship: Single
Education: Master's Degree
Bio: Yoga teacher and mindfulness coach. Seeking peace, love, and connection.
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Salena Ferrell
Salena Ferrell, 28 Online: Recently
Body Type: Hourglass
Height: 5′2″
Eyes: Violet
Drinking: Trying to Quit
Smoking: Frequently
Sexuality: Homosexual
Relationship: Open Relationship
Education: Trade School
Bio: Musician and hopeless romantic. Let’s write our own love symphony.
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Raheem Beach
Raheem Beach, 29 Online: This week
Body Type: Hourglass
Height: 5′10″
Eyes: Brown
Drinking: Occasionally
Smoking: Trying to Quit
Sexuality: Graysexual
Relationship: Polyamorous
Education: High School Diploma
Bio: Nature lover and hiking enthusiast. Let's get lost in the woods and find ourselves.
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Corey Curry
Corey Curry, 33 Online: This week
Body Type: Hourglass
Height: 6′1″
Eyes: Prefer Not to Say
Drinking: Occasionally
Smoking: Frequently
Sexuality: Pansexual
Relationship: Prefer Not to Say
Education: Bachelor's Degree
Bio: Guitarist and vinyl collector. Let's make sweet music together.
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Vivian Moon
Vivian Moon, 31 Online: Recently
Body Type: Average
Height: 5′9″
Eyes: Hazel
Drinking: Frequently
Smoking: Prefer Not to Say
Sexuality: Demisexual
Relationship: Prefer Not to Say
Education: Prefer Not to Say
Bio: College student and aspiring journalist. Searching for a great story—and a great love.
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Halie Joseph
Halie Joseph, 29 Online: This week
Body Type: Soft-Masculine
Height: 5′11″
Eyes: Violet
Drinking: Occasionally
Smoking: Never
Sexuality: Demisexual
Relationship: Prefer Not to Say
Education: Master's Degree
Bio: Student and part-time barista. Passionate about social justice and good coffee.
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Markel May
Markel May, 29 Online: Recently
Body Type: Athletic
Height: 5′3″
Eyes: Green
Drinking: Social Drinker
Smoking: Never
Sexuality: Queer
Relationship: Prefer Not to Say
Education: No Formal Education
Bio: Painter and lover of all things colorful. Seeking someone who brings light into my life.
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Sheldon Reese
Sheldon Reese, 30 Online: Recently
Body Type: Full-Figured
Height: 5′0″
Eyes: Prefer Not to Say
Drinking: Social Drinker
Smoking: Occasionally
Sexuality: Sapiosexual
Relationship: It's Complicated
Education: High School Diploma
Bio: Personal trainer and nutrition coach. Health and happiness are my priorities.
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Ever Felt Like the Only Rainbow in a Beige World?

Yesterday, I was walking along Santa Monica Pier as the sunset painted the sky in colors that reminded me of our community flag. A tourist asked if I could take their photo, noticed my pride bracelet, and whispered, "It's nice to see another queer person here." We both laughed – in Santa Monica of all places!

Finding My Queer Family in Santa Monica

When I first moved to Santa Monica three years ago, I expected to find my community immediately. After all, isn't Southern California supposed to be queer paradise? Instead, I spent months awkwardly hovering at the edges of coffee shops, hoping someone would notice my subtle pride pins. The beautiful beaches and perfect weather felt lonely without connection.

The Paradox of Visible Invisibility

Here's what nobody tells you about being queer in seemingly progressive places:

  • Dating apps show hundreds of profiles but meaningful connections feel impossible
  • Everyone seems to already have their friend groups established
  • Events feel overwhelmingly cliquish when you go alone
  • The assumption that it "should be easy" makes it harder to admit when you're struggling

Creating Connection In Your Coastal Paradise

What finally worked for me wasn't grand gestures but tiny brave moments:

  • Join weekday events at Cuties (smaller crowds, easier conversations)
  • Beach volleyball meetups attract diverse queer folk
  • Volunteer at the LGBTQ+ Center – nothing bonds people like shared purpose

Remember, your vulnerability is your superpower. That feeling of not belonging? We've all felt it. Your chosen family is looking for you too.

What's your experience finding community here? Has it been easier or harder than you expected?