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Helena Pena
Helena Pena, 33 Online: Recently
Body Type: Busty
Height: 4′11″
Eyes: Gray
Drinking: Rarely
Smoking: Vapes Only
Sexuality: Skoliosexual
Relationship: Single
Education: Some College
Bio: Folk musician and nature lover. Let’s make music in the mountains.
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Stormy Ramos
Stormy Ramos, 33 Online: This week
Body Type: Athletic
Height: 5′0″
Eyes: Green
Drinking: Trying to Quit
Smoking: Heavy Smoker
Sexuality: Sapiosexual
Relationship: Polyamorous
Education: High School Diploma
Bio: Aspiring actor with a love for improv. Let’s see where life’s script takes us.
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Katharine Coffey
Katharine Coffey, 28 Online: Today
Body Type: Tall
Height: 5′4″
Eyes: Red
Drinking: Frequently
Smoking: Prefer Not to Say
Sexuality: Demisexual
Relationship: Single
Education: Some College
Bio: Bookworm with a passion for poetry. Loves quiet evenings with a good novel.
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Ashli Sears
Ashli Sears, 29 Online: Today
Body Type: Athletic
Height: 4′11″
Eyes: Amber
Drinking: Frequently
Smoking: Prefer Not to Say
Sexuality: Androsexual
Relationship: Prefer Not to Say
Education: PhD
Bio: Passionate about social justice and volunteering. Let’s change the world together!
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Josef Mcbride
Josef Mcbride, 28 Online: Recently
Body Type: Hourglass
Height: 5′6″
Eyes: Green
Drinking: Trying to Quit
Smoking: Prefer Not to Say
Sexuality: Skoliosexual
Relationship: It's Complicated
Education: Some High School
Bio: Fashion model and stylist. Love dressing up and making life glamorous.
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Jessi Patel
Jessi Patel, 30 Online: Recently
Body Type: Slender & Tall
Height: 5′1″
Eyes: Green
Drinking: Frequently
Smoking: Rarely
Sexuality: Graysexual
Relationship: Single
Education: Master's Degree
Bio: Yoga instructor and meditation guru. Searching for someone to share peaceful moments and laughter.
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Tanya Hudson
Tanya Hudson, 32 Online: This week
Body Type: Bear
Height: 6′2″
Eyes: Blue
Drinking: Heavy Drinker
Smoking: Occasionally
Sexuality: Androsexual
Relationship: Open Relationship
Education: Bachelor's Degree
Bio: Student and part-time barista. Passionate about social justice and good coffee.
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Ryan Peck
Ryan Peck, 30 Online: Today
Body Type: Plus-Size
Height: 5′4″
Eyes: Prefer Not to Say
Drinking: Frequently
Smoking: Vapes Only
Sexuality: Queer
Relationship: Single
Education: Master's Degree
Bio: Skater girl who loves indie music and longboarding at sunset.
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Jillian Fleming
Jillian Fleming, 31 Online: Today
Body Type: Broad-Shouldered
Height: 5′10″
Eyes: Hazel
Drinking: Occasionally
Smoking: Trying to Quit
Sexuality: Queer
Relationship: Prefer Not to Say
Education: Trade School
Bio: Fashion enthusiast and thrift store hunter. Seeking a partner in style.
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Unique Sweet
Unique Sweet, 30 Online: Today
Body Type: Busty
Height: 5′7″
Eyes: Blue
Drinking: Frequently
Smoking: Occasionally
Sexuality: Queer
Relationship: It's Complicated
Education: Some High School
Bio: Author and poet. Let's write the next great love story together.
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Finding Your Queer Family in Suburbia: My Thousand Oaks Journey

Have you ever felt like the only rainbow fish swimming in a sea of beige? That was me three years ago when I moved to Thousand Oaks, trading my West Hollywood apartment for oak trees and quiet streets.

My Suburban Queer Awakening

The first six months in TO were lonely. I'd wander through The Oaks mall wondering where all the other queer folks were hiding. Was I the only one who had chosen this peaceful suburban life? Then one Saturday at Wildwood Park, I spotted a woman with a small pride flag pin on her backpack. That tiny pin led to a conversation, which led to an invitation to a "secret" local queer book club.

The Invisible Barriers We Face

Living queerly in suburban spaces comes with unique challenges:

  • The assumption that you must travel to LA for community
  • Dating apps that seem to only match you with people 30+ miles away
  • "Are you the only one here?" questions from well-meaning straight folks
  • The exhaustion of constantly coming out in new spaces

Creating Your Suburban Queer Oasis

Here's what helped me find my people:

  • Check out the Conejo Valley Pride events (yes, we have them!)
  • The Diversity Collective in Ventura County hosts regular gatherings
  • Follow @QueerConejo on social media for local happenings
  • Be visibly you — your authenticity will attract your people

Remember, suburban queerness doesn't make your identity any less valid. Sometimes, being the splash of color in a quieter landscape means you get to define what community looks like.

What's your experience being queer in the suburbs? Share below and let's continue building our Thousand Oaks rainbow family together. 💖