Finding Your Queer Joy in Suburban Connecticut
Have you ever caught yourself wondering if you're the only LGBTQ+ person in your town? That was my daily thought for years as I navigated life in Shelton, Connecticut - a place where rainbow flags are few and far between.
My Shelton Story
When I moved to Shelton three years ago, the Housatonic River views captivated me, but I questioned if I'd ever find my people here. I remember sitting alone at Center Street Social, scanning the room and wondering if anyone else there was part of the alphabet mafia. That night, I almost gave up - until I noticed the bartender's subtle pride pin.
The Invisible Community Struggle
Being queer in smaller Connecticut towns comes with unique challenges:
- Dating pools that feel puddle-sized compared to nearby cities
- Constant coming out to new neighbors and coworkers
- Lack of dedicated queer spaces outside of Pride month
- The exhausting drive to New Haven or NYC for community events
Finding Your People
Despite these challenges, I've discovered beautiful ways to connect:
- Join the Shelton-Valley LGBTQ+ Facebook group (it exists, I promise!)
- Visit the monthly mixers at Two Roads Brewing
- Connect with PFLAG's Valley chapter
- Be the visible representation you wish to see - my pride keychain has started more meaningful conversations than I can count
Remember, queerness blooms everywhere - even in suburban Connecticut. Your existence here matters and makes our community stronger. You're never truly alone, even when it feels that way.
Tell me in the comments: What's been your experience finding community in smaller towns? Or share your favorite Shelton spots where you feel welcome being authentically you.