Is Being Queer in Small-Town Illinois a Journey Only Some of Us Understand?
The first time I walked into that tiny coffee shop on Main Street in Belleville, rainbow pin nervously attached to my jacket, I wasn't sure what to expect. The barista—with her undercut and tattoos—smiled at me in that knowing way and said, "Welcome home, friend."
Finding My Place in Belleville
Living in Belleville these past three years has been a mix of unexpected joy and familiar challenges. The weather changes quickly here, and sometimes acceptance does too. One day you're being invited to a neighbor's BBQ, the next you're overhearing whispers at the grocery store when you and your partner hold hands.
The Dance We All Know
Let's be honest about what many of us face here:
- The constant coming out to new people, again and again
- Dating apps where the same 12 faces appear (and three are your exes)
- The calculation of safety before showing affection in public
- Finding queer-friendly healthcare when options are limited
Creating Our Own Light
I've learned that building community here requires intention. Try these approaches that helped me:
- The monthly potluck at the community center has introduced me to chosen family
- Our online group "Queer Belleville" has become a crucial resource
- Being visible (when safe) helps others find you
- Neighboring cities like St. Louis offer weekend connection opportunities
Remember, your queerness isn't diminished by geography. Some days are harder than others, but you're carrying forward a beautiful tradition of queer resilience in small towns everywhere.
What's your Belleville story? Share below and let's build this thread into a roadmap for others finding their way.