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Nataly Fletcher
Nataly Fletcher, 31 Online: Today
Body Type: Toned
Height: 6′0″
Eyes: Brown
Drinking: Occasionally
Smoking: Occasionally
Sexuality: Heterosexual
Relationship: Polyamorous
Education: Bachelor's Degree
Bio: Fitness enthusiast and aspiring chef. Loves morning runs and trying new recipes.
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Jaron Livingston
Jaron Livingston, 28 Online: Today
Body Type: Pear-Shaped
Height: 5′9″
Eyes: Green
Drinking: Rarely
Smoking: Heavy Smoker
Sexuality: Androsexual
Relationship: Divorced
Education: Master's Degree
Bio: Aspiring filmmaker who loves storytelling and cinematography.
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Mackenzie Morris
Mackenzie Morris, 30 Online: This week
Body Type: Pear-Shaped
Height: 5′2″
Eyes: Violet
Drinking: Rarely
Smoking: Frequently
Sexuality: Heterosexual
Relationship: Divorced
Education: Associate Degree
Bio: Self-proclaimed geek who loves board games and sci-fi. Let's have a game night!
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Deonte Keller
Deonte Keller, 31 Online: Today
Body Type: Slim
Height: 5′7″
Eyes: Amber
Drinking: Prefer Not to Say
Smoking: Rarely
Sexuality: Pansexual
Relationship: Open Relationship
Education: Bachelor's Degree
Bio: Passionate about animals and sustainability. Dreaming of a simple, happy life.
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Chaim Puckett
Chaim Puckett, 33 Online: Today
Body Type: Plus-Size
Height: 6′0″
Eyes: Violet
Drinking: Frequently
Smoking: Prefer Not to Say
Sexuality: Prefer Not to Say
Relationship: Prefer Not to Say
Education: High School Diploma
Bio: Yoga teacher and mindfulness coach. Seeking peace, love, and connection.
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Morgan Rasmussen
Morgan Rasmussen, 29 Online: Today
Body Type: Busty
Height: 5′9″
Eyes: Green
Drinking: Frequently
Smoking: Trying to Quit
Sexuality: Prefer Not to Say
Relationship: Open Relationship
Education: Associate Degree
Bio: Sci-fi geek and aspiring astronaut. Let’s explore the universe together.
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Kaila Daugherty
Kaila Daugherty, 31 Online: This week
Body Type: Voluptuous
Height: 5′7″
Eyes: Brown
Drinking: Frequently
Smoking: Occasionally
Sexuality: Sapiosexual
Relationship: Single
Education: Associate Degree
Bio: Skater girl who loves indie music and longboarding at sunset.
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Raven Barron
Raven Barron, 33 Online: This week
Body Type: Petite
Height: 4′11″
Eyes: Brown
Drinking: Occasionally
Smoking: Social Smoker
Sexuality: Sapiosexual
Relationship: It's Complicated
Education: Currently a Student
Bio: Loves astrology, tarot, and all things mystical.
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Amie Henry
Amie Henry, 31 Online: Recently
Body Type: Plus-Size
Height: 6′0″
Eyes: Gray
Drinking: Occasionally
Smoking: Frequently
Sexuality: Demisexual
Relationship: Single
Education: Some College
Bio: Graphic novelist who loves all things fantasy and sci-fi.
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Destinee Hooper
Destinee Hooper, 30 Online: Recently
Body Type: Soft-Feminine
Height: 6′3″
Eyes: Green
Drinking: Prefer Not to Say
Smoking: Never
Sexuality: Demisexual
Relationship: Open Relationship
Education: No Formal Education
Bio: Writer and poet. Looking for someone to inspire my next piece.
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Finding My Rainbow in the Heartland: Is Being Queer in Des Moines as Isolating as I First Thought?

I remember my first winter here, standing under the gray Iowa sky, wondering if I'd made a terrible mistake. A queer transplant from Seattle to Des Moines, I felt like I'd landed on another planet where people like me were merely theoretical.

When Corn Fields Replace Pride Parades

Des Moines surprised me though. Behind the modest Midwestern facade, I discovered pockets of vibrant queer life. That first tentative visit to The Garden nightclub downtown turned into friendships that have sustained me for years. The barista at Horizon Line Coffee who noticed my pronoun pin and whispered "family" while handing me my latte became my first local guide.

The Heartland Heartache

Let's be real though—it's not always easy. The challenges hit differently here:

  • Dating pools that feel more like puddles (I've gone on dates with my ex's ex without realizing it)
  • Well-meaning but exhausting questions from coworkers
  • The constant internal GPS of knowing which spaces are truly safe
  • Winter isolation that amplifies loneliness

Finding Your People in the Prairie

If you're feeling adrift, please know there are anchors:

  • Iowa Safe Schools hosts regular community events beyond just youth programming
  • One Iowa connects folks across the state with surprising effectiveness
  • The Des Moines Social Club (RIP) has spiritual successors in popup events
  • Create what you need—my book club started with just three queer folks and now has fifteen

Remember that queerness has always existed in places like Iowa. We aren't visitors—we're part of the heartland's fabric. Your presence here matters. Those lonely moments? I've felt them too. We all have.

What's your Des Moines experience been like? Drop a comment below or DM me about joining our monthly potluck. The next one has a "breakfast for dinner" theme and I promise my quiche is worth braving the cold for!