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Nicholas Harmon
Nicholas Harmon, 32 Online: Today
Body Type: Hourglass
Height: 5′2″
Eyes: Violet
Drinking: Occasionally
Smoking: Heavy Smoker
Sexuality: Questioning
Relationship: Divorced
Education: Some High School
Bio: Veterinarian with a soft spot for rescue animals.
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Katelynn Leon
Katelynn Leon, 30 Online: Today
Body Type: Muscular
Height: 6′2″
Eyes: Green
Drinking: Never
Smoking: Prefer Not to Say
Sexuality: Pansexual
Relationship: Open Relationship
Education: Associate Degree
Bio: Aspiring actor with a love for improv. Let’s see where life’s script takes us.
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Kaylin Landry
Kaylin Landry, 29 Online: Recently
Body Type: Pear-Shaped
Height: 5′4″
Eyes: Hazel
Drinking: Never
Smoking: Never
Sexuality: Demisexual
Relationship: Polyamorous
Education: Some High School
Bio: Lover of dance, poetry, and deep conversations under the stars.
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Michaela Barker
Michaela Barker, 32 Online: Recently
Body Type: Toned
Height: 5′5″
Eyes: Violet
Drinking: Prefer Not to Say
Smoking: Social Smoker
Sexuality: Pansexual
Relationship: Open Relationship
Education: Trade School
Bio: Photographer with a passion for capturing love in all forms.
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Kerri Rivera
Kerri Rivera, 32 Online: Today
Body Type: Soft-Feminine
Height: 6′0″
Eyes: Green
Drinking: Never
Smoking: Heavy Smoker
Sexuality: Graysexual
Relationship: Prefer Not to Say
Education: Master's Degree
Bio: Tech enthusiast and gamer. Enjoys hiking and late-night coding sessions.
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Christopher Hale
Christopher Hale, 30 Online: Recently
Body Type: Athletic
Height: 5′0″
Eyes: Hazel
Drinking: Prefer Not to Say
Smoking: Prefer Not to Say
Sexuality: Gynosexual
Relationship: Prefer Not to Say
Education: Master's Degree
Bio: Travel addict and foodie. Always searching for the best local spots.
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Jay Hull
Jay Hull, 31 Online: Today
Body Type: Tall
Height: 5′3″
Eyes: Gray
Drinking: Social Drinker
Smoking: Prefer Not to Say
Sexuality: Queer
Relationship: Prefer Not to Say
Education: Master's Degree
Bio: Chef with a love for spicy food. Let’s turn up the heat!
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Carly Salinas
Carly Salinas, 29 Online: Recently
Body Type: Athletic
Height: 5′10″
Eyes: Hazel
Drinking: Never
Smoking: Rarely
Sexuality: Bisexual
Relationship: Single
Education: Some College
Bio: Museum curator and history nerd. Let's time travel through art.
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Yessenia Weber
Yessenia Weber, 31 Online: This week
Body Type: Pear-Shaped
Height: 6′1″
Eyes: Blue
Drinking: Trying to Quit
Smoking: Prefer Not to Say
Sexuality: Heterosexual
Relationship: Divorced
Education: Master's Degree
Bio: Music lover and concert-goer. Let’s find our song together.
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Leslie Johnston
Leslie Johnston, 31 Online: Recently
Body Type: Soft-Masculine
Height: 5′4″
Eyes: Green
Drinking: Trying to Quit
Smoking: Rarely
Sexuality: Skoliosexual
Relationship: Divorced
Education: Some College
Bio: Tech nerd and gamer. Can you beat me at Mario Kart? Let’s find out!
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Queer dating online in West Des Moines, Iowa – connect with singles looking for romance and more.

Does Anyone Else Feel Like Being Queer in West Des Moines Is Both Liberating and Lonely?

I remember the first time I walked into Java Joe's on a quiet Tuesday, rainbow pin nervously attached to my jacket. My hands were shaking as I ordered my latte, wondering if anyone would notice, if anyone would care.

Finding My Place in Iowa's Suburban Landscape

West Des Moines has this strange duality - progressive enough that I can hold my partner's hand at Jordan Creek Mall, but conservative enough that we sometimes get those lingering stares. Last summer at Valley Junction's farmers market, an elderly woman stopped us to say we made a "lovely couple" and I nearly cried right there between the tomato stand and homemade soap display.

When Being "The Only One" Gets Exhausting

The struggle isn't always about acceptance - sometimes it's about:

  • Constantly explaining your pronouns at neighborhood gatherings
  • Dating apps where the same 12 profiles appear for months
  • Being the "token queer friend" in mostly straight social circles
  • Finding yourself code-switching between queer spaces downtown and suburban life

Building Your Chosen Family Here

What's helped me thrive is creating intentional connections. The Des Moines LGBTQ+ Book Club became my sanctuary. I've found that West Des Moines has hidden pockets of community - you just need to know where to look.

You're not navigating this alone, even when Starbucks replaces their rainbow merchandise with pumpkin spice overnight. Your identity matters here in the suburbs just as much as downtown.

Have you found your people in West Des Moines? Share your favorite queer-friendly spaces below - I'm still discovering new ones every month!