Finding Your Rainbow in the Granite State: A Queer Journey
Have you ever felt like the only rainbow in a sea of gray? That was me, three years ago, when I first moved to Concord. No queer friends, no idea where to find community, just me and my U-Haul dreams in New Hampshire's capital city.
My Concord Story
I remember walking through downtown that first autumn, leaves crunching underfoot, wondering if I'd made a mistake. The State House gleamed in the distance, but I couldn't see myself reflected anywhere. Then, a simple rainbow sticker in a coffee shop window changed everything. The barista, noticing my pride pin, whispered about a monthly meetup at Gibson's Bookstore. One brave conversation led to my first queer friend here.
When Being Yourself Feels Impossible
Let's be honest about the challenges:
- The dating pool feels puddle-sized (and yes, everyone does know your ex)
- Coming out repeatedly gets exhausting in professional settings
- Winter isolation is real, especially when chosen family lives far away
- Finding affirming healthcare providers requires detective-level research
Creating Your Queer Oasis
Here's what helped me build my community:
- Join the Concord PFLAG chapter – even as an adult, it's a lifeline
- Volunteer with NH Pride – the connections last year-round
- Create the space you wish existed (my monthly queer game night started with just three people!)
- Be visible when safe – your existence gives others courage
You aren't alone in this capital city. Behind those historic facades and traditional New England reserve, there's a vibrant queer community waiting to welcome you home. We're in the coffee shops, bookstores, and yes, even the State House.
What's your Concord experience? Share below or DM me about joining our next community potluck. Your voice matters in our growing rainbow mosaic.