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Quentin Hoover
Quentin Hoover, 32 Online: This week
Body Type: Lean
Height: 5′11″
Eyes: Hazel
Drinking: Heavy Drinker
Smoking: Prefer Not to Say
Sexuality: Queer
Relationship: Prefer Not to Say
Education: Some College
Bio: Aspiring novelist who loves indie films. Looking for someone to inspire new stories.
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Deshaun Savage
Deshaun Savage, 28 Online: This week
Body Type: Slim
Height: 5′4″
Eyes: Hazel
Drinking: Never
Smoking: Prefer Not to Say
Sexuality: Polysexual
Relationship: Prefer Not to Say
Education: PhD
Bio: Photographer with a passion for capturing love in all forms.
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Melissa Lott
Melissa Lott, 33 Online: Today
Body Type: Slim
Height: 5′5″
Eyes: Hazel
Drinking: Never
Smoking: Trying to Quit
Sexuality: Prefer Not to Say
Relationship: Divorced
Education: Trade School
Bio: Engineer by trade, musician by passion. Looking for someone who appreciates both logic and creativity.
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Tracey Conrad
Tracey Conrad, 33 Online: Recently
Body Type: Compact & Petite
Height: 5′8″
Eyes: Amber
Drinking: Trying to Quit
Smoking: Trying to Quit
Sexuality: Prefer Not to Say
Relationship: Open Relationship
Education: Master's Degree
Bio: Fashion blogger and makeup enthusiast. Let’s be fabulous together!
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Sabrina Dudley
Sabrina Dudley, 29 Online: Recently
Body Type: Lean
Height: 5′6″
Eyes: Green
Drinking: Prefer Not to Say
Smoking: Never
Sexuality: Androsexual
Relationship: Open Relationship
Education: Some High School
Bio: Dog parent and marathon runner. Looking for someone to share long walks and lazy Sundays.
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Adriana Rodriquez
Adriana Rodriquez, 30 Online: Recently
Body Type: Slender & Tall
Height: 6′2″
Eyes: Blue
Drinking: Frequently
Smoking: Occasionally
Sexuality: Graysexual
Relationship: Single
Education: Bachelor's Degree
Bio: Lover of dance, poetry, and deep conversations under the stars.
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Jazmin Reeves
Jazmin Reeves, 29 Online: This week
Body Type: Curvy
Height: 5′1″
Eyes: Red
Drinking: Frequently
Smoking: Occasionally
Sexuality: Androsexual
Relationship: Divorced
Education: PhD
Bio: Loves astrology, tarot, and all things mystical.
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Deja Benton
Deja Benton, 29 Online: Today
Body Type: Stocky
Height: 5′1″
Eyes: Red
Drinking: Social Drinker
Smoking: Frequently
Sexuality: Questioning
Relationship: Polyamorous
Education: Prefer Not to Say
Bio: Graphic novelist who loves all things fantasy and sci-fi.
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Johanna Kelly
Johanna Kelly, 28 Online: Today
Body Type: Compact & Petite
Height: 4′11″
Eyes: Green
Drinking: Occasionally
Smoking: Frequently
Sexuality: Graysexual
Relationship: It's Complicated
Education: Some High School
Bio: Singer-songwriter looking for someone to inspire my next hit.
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Jessie Cooper
Jessie Cooper, 29 Online: Today
Body Type: Broad-Shouldered
Height: 5′10″
Eyes: Blue
Drinking: Never
Smoking: Vapes Only
Sexuality: Androsexual
Relationship: Open Relationship
Education: Trade School
Bio: Comedy writer who loves making people laugh. Let’s share some jokes.
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Finding Myself Between the Garden State Parkway and the Gay Bar

Ever felt like your GPS should include directions for navigating queer life in suburban New Jersey? One minute you're sitting in traffic on the Turnpike, the next you're trying to explain to your Italian grandmother why you brought "just a friend" to Sunday dinner again.

When Jersey Shore Meets Queer Reality

Growing up in Montclair, I spent years thinking I was the only queer person in a 10-mile radius. My first Pride was a terrifying solo journey on NJ Transit to NYC, clutching my ticket like a lifeline. I remember stepping off at Penn Station, rainbow pin hidden inside my jacket pocket until I was safely anonymous in the crowd.

  • Dating apps showed "45 miles away" for potential matches
  • Found myself creating excuses to visit the one coffee shop with a tiny pride flag
  • Mastered the art of the "is this person queer or just artsy?" assessment

The Invisible Tightrope

The hardest part wasn't coming out—it was building community afterward. South Orange had its pockets of queerness, but connecting felt impossible without obvious gathering spaces. You'd see someone at the farmers market, make eye contact, wonder if they're family, then chicken out of saying hello.

  • Dating meant traveling to Asbury Park or NYC
  • Found myself code-switching between different versions of me
  • Constantly explaining NJ isn't just what you see on TV

Creating Home Where You Are

I started a tiny meetup at a local bookstore. First night: three people. Six months later: twenty-five regularly. Now we have group texts, holiday parties, and enough people to help you move apartments at a moment's notice. The family we built spans Bergen to Cape May.

You're not alone here. Behind those suburban facades and mall parking lots are people like us, looking for connection. Your Jersey queer family is here—sometimes we're just stuck in traffic on the way to find each other.