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Hailee Day
Hailee Day, 33 Online: This week
Body Type: Compact & Petite
Height: 6′3″
Eyes: Prefer Not to Say
Drinking: Prefer Not to Say
Smoking: Heavy Smoker
Sexuality: Questioning
Relationship: Single
Education: No Formal Education
Bio: Photographer with a passion for capturing love in all forms.
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Blair Raymond
Blair Raymond, 31 Online: Recently
Body Type: Compact & Petite
Height: 5′7″
Eyes: Blue
Drinking: Rarely
Smoking: Prefer Not to Say
Sexuality: Skoliosexual
Relationship: Polyamorous
Education: Master's Degree
Bio: Astronomy nerd who loves stargazing and deep space talks.
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Kyler Adams
Kyler Adams, 33 Online: Today
Body Type: Soft-Masculine
Height: 6′0″
Eyes: Gray
Drinking: Social Drinker
Smoking: Trying to Quit
Sexuality: Bisexual
Relationship: Open Relationship
Education: Trade School
Bio: Lifelong gamer and sci-fi geek. Let’s co-op our way through life.
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Unique Mueller
Unique Mueller, 31 Online: Recently
Body Type: Muscular
Height: 5′10″
Eyes: Green
Drinking: Frequently
Smoking: Prefer Not to Say
Sexuality: Androsexual
Relationship: Prefer Not to Say
Education: Currently a Student
Bio: Painter who finds joy in colors, emotions, and storytelling.
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Ethan Fleming
Ethan Fleming, 33 Online: Recently
Body Type: Slender & Tall
Height: 5′3″
Eyes: Gray
Drinking: Frequently
Smoking: Frequently
Sexuality: Demisexual
Relationship: Divorced
Education: Some College
Bio: Social worker with a heart for helping others. Kindness is my love language.
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Kaela Thomas
Kaela Thomas, 32 Online: Recently
Body Type: Full-Figured
Height: 6′2″
Eyes: Green
Drinking: Frequently
Smoking: Never
Sexuality: Queer
Relationship: Divorced
Education: Currently a Student
Bio: Passionate about animals and sustainability. Dreaming of a simple, happy life.
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Elliot Klein
Elliot Klein, 30 Online: This week
Body Type: Slender & Tall
Height: 5′6″
Eyes: Blue
Drinking: Rarely
Smoking: Prefer Not to Say
Sexuality: Questioning
Relationship: Prefer Not to Say
Education: PhD
Bio: Tech geek and video game lover. Let’s build something amazing together.
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Douglas Abbott
Douglas Abbott, 28 Online: Today
Body Type: Bear
Height: 4′11″
Eyes: Amber
Drinking: Rarely
Smoking: Occasionally
Sexuality: Demisexual
Relationship: Divorced
Education: No Formal Education
Bio: Traveler and foodie. Always planning the next adventure.
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Francisco Dixon
Francisco Dixon, 30 Online: This week
Body Type: Stocky
Height: 5′1″
Eyes: Violet
Drinking: Prefer Not to Say
Smoking: Occasionally
Sexuality: Heterosexual
Relationship: It's Complicated
Education: Prefer Not to Say
Bio: Cosplay enthusiast and anime lover. Let’s go to conventions together!
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Charles Frederick
Charles Frederick, 29 Online: Today
Body Type: Athletic
Height: 5′8″
Eyes: Gray
Drinking: Never
Smoking: Heavy Smoker
Sexuality: Skoliosexual
Relationship: Prefer Not to Say
Education: Master's Degree
Bio: Student and part-time barista. Passionate about social justice and good coffee.
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Finding Your Place: When Being Queer in a Small City Feels Both Liberating and Lonely

Have you ever felt like you're both visible and invisible at the same time? That's my daily reality navigating life as a queer person in Schenectady, where the historic Stockade district charm meets the complexity of building authentic connections.

My Schenectady Story

Two years ago, I moved into a gorgeous brick apartment near Union College, excited about the lower rent than Brooklyn and the promise of a "progressive upstate community." The reality? Walking through the Greenmarket on Sundays, I'd catch glimpses of rainbow pins and pride flags in shop windows, yet finding my people proved surprisingly difficult.

The Invisible Dance

The struggle is real when:

  • Dating apps show the same 15 profiles within a 50-mile radius
  • Well-meaning allies introduce you to the only other queer person they know
  • You're never quite sure if that coffee shop is actually queer-friendly or just has good marketing
  • Community events feel welcoming but still somehow don't quite fit

Creating Your Own Magic

What I've learned is that queer joy in smaller cities requires intentionality:

  • The monthly meetups at Electric City Art Gallery became my anchor
  • Finding online groups specific to upstate NY queer life connected me to events I'd never have discovered
  • Being the one to organize rather than wait for perfect spaces to appear
  • Embracing the intergenerational nature of our smaller community

Remember that your experience is valid, your loneliness is not a failure, and your desire for community isn't asking too much. We all deserve spaces where we can exhale completely.

How are you finding or creating community in your city? Share below – your strategy might be exactly what someone else needs to hear today.