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Layla Velez
Layla Velez, 29 Online: This week
Body Type: Petite
Height: 5′1″
Eyes: Hazel
Drinking: Social Drinker
Smoking: Never
Sexuality: Homosexual
Relationship: Open Relationship
Education: Some College
Bio: Psychologist and meditation enthusiast. Seeking someone emotionally intelligent.
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Bryton Tyson
Bryton Tyson, 31 Online: This week
Body Type: Toned
Height: 5′7″
Eyes: Violet
Drinking: Trying to Quit
Smoking: Prefer Not to Say
Sexuality: Graysexual
Relationship: Single
Education: Trade School
Bio: Travel addict and foodie. Always searching for the best local spots.
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Issac Emerson
Issac Emerson, 28 Online: Today
Body Type: Tall
Height: 5′1″
Eyes: Hazel
Drinking: Prefer Not to Say
Smoking: Prefer Not to Say
Sexuality: Homosexual
Relationship: It's Complicated
Education: Master's Degree
Bio: Photographer with a passion for capturing love in all forms.
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Deandre Santana
Deandre Santana, 33 Online: Recently
Body Type: Average
Height: 5′5″
Eyes: Amber
Drinking: Frequently
Smoking: Occasionally
Sexuality: Heterosexual
Relationship: Open Relationship
Education: Bachelor's Degree
Bio: Lover of dance, poetry, and deep conversations under the stars.
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Jon Woodward
Jon Woodward, 31 Online: Today
Body Type: Hourglass
Height: 5′2″
Eyes: Amber
Drinking: Rarely
Smoking: Frequently
Sexuality: Polysexual
Relationship: Divorced
Education: Associate Degree
Bio: Lover of art museums and cozy bookstores. Let’s get lost in a world of creativity.
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Frank Burch
Frank Burch, 33 Online: Today
Body Type: Voluptuous
Height: 5′5″
Eyes: Amber
Drinking: Social Drinker
Smoking: Social Smoker
Sexuality: Queer
Relationship: Polyamorous
Education: Master's Degree
Bio: History buff and museum goer. Always up for a deep conversation over coffee.
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Shawn Rodriquez
Shawn Rodriquez, 32 Online: Recently
Body Type: Broad-Shouldered
Height: 5′2″
Eyes: Blue
Drinking: Never
Smoking: Frequently
Sexuality: Prefer Not to Say
Relationship: Single
Education: Some High School
Bio: Fitness enthusiast and aspiring chef. Loves morning runs and trying new recipes.
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Jacoby Gray
Jacoby Gray, 28 Online: Today
Body Type: Bear
Height: 5′3″
Eyes: Blue
Drinking: Rarely
Smoking: Occasionally
Sexuality: Gynosexual
Relationship: Divorced
Education: Some College
Bio: Guitarist and vinyl collector. Let's make sweet music together.
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Lincoln Weber
Lincoln Weber, 28 Online: Recently
Body Type: Full-Figured
Height: 4′11″
Eyes: Red
Drinking: Heavy Drinker
Smoking: Vapes Only
Sexuality: Pansexual
Relationship: Divorced
Education: No Formal Education
Bio: Aspiring filmmaker who loves storytelling and cinematography.
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Sherry Stevenson
Sherry Stevenson, 28 Online: This week
Body Type: Dad Bod
Height: 5′9″
Eyes: Hazel
Drinking: Never
Smoking: Frequently
Sexuality: Sapiosexual
Relationship: It's Complicated
Education: No Formal Education
Bio: Animal rescuer and advocate. Searching for a fellow animal lover.
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Finding My Queer Joy in Suburban North Carolina

Have you ever felt like the only rainbow fish in a crystal-clear pond? That was me when I first moved to Cary, North Carolina—a place known more for its manicured lawns than its vibrant queer scene.

My Cary Coming-Out Story

Three years ago, I traded Brooklyn's bustling queer neighborhoods for Cary's quiet streets. My partner got a tech job at Research Triangle Park, and suddenly I found myself navigating life as a visibly queer person in what felt like suburban silence. Those first months, I'd drive 20 minutes to Durham just to feel seen in queer-friendly spaces.

When You're "Too Queer" for the Suburbs

The struggle is real when:

  • You're constantly deciding whether to come out to new neighbors
  • Dating apps show the same 15 people within a 25-mile radius
  • Well-meaning colleagues ask about your "friend" when referring to your partner
  • Finding queer-friendly healthcare feels like a research project

Creating Queer Community Where You Are

What I've learned is that queer joy exists everywhere—sometimes we just need to create it:

  • The Out! Raleigh Pride festival became my annual soul-replenishment
  • I started a monthly queer book club at Gather, a local coffee shop
  • Found surprising allies at the Cary Community Garden
  • Connected with queer families through Triangle Families Like Mine

Remember, suburban queerness isn't less valid or vibrant—it just looks different. Our presence here matters, creating pathways for others who will come after us.

How are you creating queer community where you live? Share your story below, or DM me if you're local and want to grab coffee!