Ever Felt Like the Only Glitter in a Gray Midwestern Sky?
I remember the first time I walked into that small coffee shop on Market Street in Lima. The barista—with her septum piercing and partially shaved head—gave me a knowing nod that said, "I see you." In that moment, I felt less alone in this corner of Ohio that sometimes feels like it's still catching up to the rest of the world.
Finding My Queer Family in Lima
Growing up queer in Allen County meant learning to navigate spaces that weren't designed for us. The Lima Public Library became my sanctuary—not just for books, but for the internet connection that linked me to others who understood. When I finally found our tiny but mighty LGBTQ+ group that meets at Vibe Coffeehouse every Thursday, it felt like exhaling after holding my breath for years.
The "Only One" Syndrome
Let's talk about what many of us experience here:
- That feeling when you're swiping on dating apps and see the same 12 profiles for weeks
- Going to "the one gay bar" and realizing everyone already knows each other
- The exhaustion of being someone's first queer friend/date/relationship
- Constantly explaining your pronouns to well-meaning but clueless neighbors
Creating Your Queer Oasis
Here's what's helped me thrive, not just survive, in Lima:
- Build bridges, not islands - Connect with allies and create inclusive spaces
- Road trip adventures to Columbus or Toledo for bigger community events
- Online communities can be lifelines (Lima Queer Exchange on Facebook saved me)
- Start small traditions that matter (our monthly potluck began with just three people!)
Remember, your queerness isn't diminished by geography. Sometimes being visible in places like Lima is itself a radical act of courage and love. Your story matters here—perhaps even more than in places where being queer is more commonplace.
What's your Lima experience been like? Share below and let's keep weaving this beautiful, resilient community together. You are never as alone as you feel. 💖