Anyone else feel like they're the only queer person in Wilkes-Barre some days?
The first time I walked through Public Square wearing my pride pin, I felt both terrified and exhilarated. Growing up in NEPA meant hiding parts of myself, but last summer something changed when I spotted another queer person at the farmers market who smiled and nodded at me—that silent acknowledgment we all know.
When Finding Your People Feels Impossible
Let's be honest about the struggles:
- Dating apps show the same 12 people within a 50-mile radius
- The "unofficial" gay nights at local bars change constantly
- That awkward moment when you can't tell if someone is queer or just really into flannel (it's Northeastern PA after all)
- Conservative family members who "accept you" but change the subject when you mention your partner
Creating Your Own Queer Home Here
I've learned that thriving as a queer person in Wilkes-Barre means getting creative:
- The Kirby Center events and Wilkes University gatherings often attract our community
- NEPA Pride has grown exponentially in recent years
- Online groups specific to LGBTQ+ folks in NEPA exist if you know where to look
- Sometimes you have to be the one to organize the queer game night or hiking group
Those moments of isolation you're feeling? We've all had them here. The person who feels like they don't belong today might be organizing tomorrow's community potluck. Your presence matters in building our queer Wilkes-Barre.
What's your experience being queer in NEPA? Share below—your story might be exactly what someone else needs to hear right now. 💜