Ever Wonder What It's Like Being Queer in a Small Utah Town?
I still remember the first time I walked down Main Street in Bountiful holding my partner's hand. The mix of anxiety and pride created this storm in my chest that I can still feel when I close my eyes. The mountains watched over us like silent witnesses to our small act of courage.
Finding My Place Among the Orchard City
Bountiful's cherry orchards have nothing on the sweetness of finding your people here. After moving from Salt Lake City three years ago, I worried I'd sacrificed community for affordability. I was wrong. Between the local coffee shop that hosts queer book club and the surprising number of rainbow flags in my neighborhood, I've carved out a beautiful life here.
The Invisible Dance We All Know
- That moment of hesitation before mentioning your partner at work
- The careful scanning of a room before showing affection
- Finding creative answers to "Why aren't you married yet?"
- The exhaustion of being the "first" or "only" in many spaces
Living authentically in smaller communities requires a unique resilience. Some days, I'm tired of being everyone's "learning experience."
Building Your Queer Joy Toolkit
Start small—find just one affirming person or space. The Davis Pride organization hosts monthly gatherings. The Unitarian church here has been incredibly welcoming. Even virtual connections with other rural queer folks can sustain you until your local community grows.
Remember that your existence here matters. You're creating pathways for others without even realizing it.
I see you. We're here together, creating pockets of belonging in unexpected places. Your journey might look different than mine, but it's no less valid or beautiful.
How are you creating community where you are? Share below—your story might be exactly what someone else needs to hear today.