Finding My Queer Family in Lakewood: A Journey of Belonging
Have you ever felt like a colorful fish swimming in a sea of gray? That was me when I first moved to Lakewood, Washington, wondering if I'd ever find my people in this military-adjacent town.
My Lakewood Story
When I arrived three years ago, I spent countless evenings at Starbucks near the Towne Center, hoping to catch glimpses of other queer folks. The rainbow pin on my backpack felt like a lighthouse signal - I am here, can you see me? Slowly, I started noticing others: the barista with pronoun pins, the couple holding hands by American Lake, the small pride flags in apartment windows near JBLM.
The Struggle Is Real
Finding community here isn't always easy:
- Many LGBTQ+ spaces are concentrated in Tacoma or Seattle, making transportation a barrier
- The transient military population means friends often move away
- Dating apps show the same 15 people within a 10-mile radius
- Winter isolation makes connection even harder
Creating Space Where There Is None
Here's what actually worked for me:
- Started a monthly meetup at the Lakewood Library
- Connected with Tacoma's Rainbow Center for resources
- Found queer-friendly churches like United Church of Christ
- Joined PFLAG Pierce County's events
- Created visibility through simple acts of authenticity
Remember: Lakewood's queer community exists in pockets and corners, in coffee shops and at Chambers Bay. We're here, sometimes quiet but always resilient.
You're not floating alone in this suburban sea. Your experience matters, your presence creates space for others, and your journey helps our community grow stronger.
What's your Lakewood story? Share below where you've found connection or what spaces you wish existed here. Let's build this map together.