Finding My Rainbow in the Heart of Wisconsin
Have you ever felt like the only unicorn in a field of horses? That was me, stepping off the bus in Appleton five years ago with nothing but a suitcase full of flannel and a heart full of questions.
My Appleton Journey
The Fox River welcomed me before anyone else did. I'd sit by its banks wondering if I'd made a mistake moving to a midsize Wisconsin city where I knew no one. Then came that magical night at The Raven, where I locked eyes with a barista who had constellation freckles and a laugh that made the winter seem warmer. Appleton had possibilities I hadn't considered.
When Being Yourself Feels Revolutionary
Let's be real—navigating queerness here has its moments:
- That awkward "coming out" conversation with each new colleague
- Dating pools smaller than Lake Winnebago in drought season
- The well-meaning but exhausting education you provide to straight friends
- Finding community spaces that aren't just bars
Blooming Where We're Planted
What I've learned is that queer joy flourishes in unexpected places:
- Connect with Lawrence University's LGBTQ+ groups—they welcome community members
- Volunteer at Diverse & Resilient's local initiatives
- Create the spaces you wish existed (my queer book club started with just 3 people!)
- Be visible when it's safe—your existence matters
Remember, you're part of a brilliant tapestry stretching across this city. Your story isn't just valid—it's vital. We're here, we're queer, and we're making Appleton more beautiful together.